People often hide the fact that they are struggling, because they don't want to worry anyone or lose their independence. These are some signs worth noticing.
Things to look out for
- Weight loss, an empty fridge, or food that is out of date
- Wearing the same clothes for several days, or changes in personal hygiene
- Unopened post, unpaid bills or missed appointments
- A house that is much less tidy than it used to be
- Bruises or other signs of falls
- Forgetting to take medicines, or taking them twice
- Becoming withdrawn, or no longer seeing friends
Starting the conversation
Choose a calm moment and focus on what the person wants: staying at home, keeping their independence, feeling safe. Talk about support as something that helps them carry on living the way they like, rather than as taking over.
Start small. A few visits a week for shopping, company or help with a bath can make a big difference, and the support can grow if it is needed.
Getting advice
If you're worried about someone's health, speak to their GP. You can also ask the local council for a needs assessment, or talk to a home care provider about the options.
This guide gives general information only. For advice about a particular situation, speak to your GP, local council or an independent adviser.